In my latest Amazon package was the Gael Lindenfield book on anger which I mentioned before. I got it out tonight to look at the next section and reflect on it.
The exercise for the chapter I read is this:
Note down the price you may be paying for not acknowledging or assertively managing your anger.
Physical tension, expecially in my shoulders.
Low self esteem. Self-criticism. Excessive worrying. Ruminative thinking.
Unassertive. Offering to help where I should be looking out for myself.
Being taken for granted.
Make a list of positive atatements which you could use as assertions.
It is good for me to recognise when I feel angry.
I have a right to express my feelings responsibly.
Wow this is hard. Not doing too great a job on it. But it's a start, I suppose.