Wednesday, 8 October 2008


I've done some crying tonight, at my session with J.
I want to cry some more but somehow I can't.
It's safe to let the tears out there but not elsewhere, somehow.


marcella said...

sorry that you can't cry some more if you need to. I cried today too - and the person who was with me was my boss - oops - luckily she's a fairly emotional person too and she seemed to take it well

Mandy said...

Hi C

Crying in a safe space to cry is better than not crying at all.

Not sure if you have a problem with allowing yourself to cry. I know that sounds a bit absurb because crying is usually reactive and happens with spontaneouty (during or after an event). Before I go psychobabbling. What I am trying to get out is maybe you have supressed emotions in the past and it could take time to be freer with your feelings.

Actually, I think crying in a safe place was healthy for you. There is time for emotions to come differently.

I am a bit of a condundrum when it comes to crying. I either cry, suddenly, when I least expect or want to...or feel the tears inside and they won't come..well not for some time.

I used to cry alot but got the stiff upper lip responses. Crying, in this society, is still not such an accepted emotional response as others are.

Maybe that is why people use anger and aggression...rather than show something more deeply entrenched (so deep they have forgotten how to relate).

I think you deserve a massive hug for taking the steps you are.


Disillusioned said...

Thank you both. I guess it will come out when it is the right time.

MMP said...

right time, right place, right person

the whole mix....

Disillusioned said...

Thanks MMP. I know you are right.