Like a swan gliding along on the water, there is often much frantic paddling going on beneath the surface. The swan works hard to achieve the illusion of serenity and power.
We see through our own filters. We need to remove our glasses from time to time to see the richness and contrast - not just see it in terms of our own preferred colours.
Looking through the wrong end of binoculars gives us a perception which suggests depth - but without the bigger picture it is meaningless.
And the picture changes over time. People who appeared supportive and understanding, even friendly, can choose to withdraw that connection. They can change the opinion of others - or choose to support the status quo. It's important to compare the present with the past in order to fully understand the current situation.